I can't think of times I feel more helpless than when I see the people I care about suffering. Especially when it's my wife or daughter. I can think of nothing worse than seeing their pain or problems and being able to do nothing to help. I usually either feel guilty for not doing enough or frustrated that I can't do more. This happened to me this weekend. I hate it and it's probably one of the worst things about being married.
I've been married now for five years. In that time my wife has had several severe toothaches and infections, mostly resulting from bad dentistry in her youth in Venezuela, and two operations. Gall bladder and Appendix. In every one of these cases, I've had to watch her suffer pain, sometimes unbearable, as we get matters resolved and get her in to see somebody. And there isn't much I can do. I watch. I listen. I drive her to the doctor.
This weekend it was a toothache caused by infection. Turns out she has a filling that probably should have been a root canal and now it's gone bad. Fun for her, because now she gets the root canal, only this time done on an abscessed tooth. Needless to say it has been very painful for her. Probably not something I would recommend. But don't worry. She's on antibiotics and the dentist has drained to pus to relieve the swelling and she'll be fine--after a few days.
I always find myself asking, what do I do? When someone is in pain, and not even a few Lortabs can calm it what can you do? I hate feeling helpless and I hate not being able to fix things. It's bad enough with my wife, but if this ever happens with my daughter I think I'll go crazy.
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